EP63 Sex At Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means for Modern Relationships
Welcome to Season 3 of Clit Talk where we return to our roots as a book club, featuring Christopher Ryan’s New York Times bestselling book Sex At Dawn. In this series of episodes, we will explore the origins of sex and how we came to operate as we do in today’s modern societies.
Ryan challenges everything you think you know about sex, marriage, and family, so we are going to be turning the idea of traditional lifelong monogamy inside out and shaking it by its heels to discover what’s worth keeping and what’s just a bunch of outdated programming.
WARNING: Season 3 may trigger the living shit out of some of you, and for others may be THE ANSWER you have been searching for. Either way, it will give you valuable insights and the ability to choose with your mate exactly what rules work for you, free from the chains of society and tradition. WOOHOO!
In today’s episode, we begin at the very beginning...Adam and Eve. Just kidding. Actually, Bonobos and the Birth of Agriculturalism. That’s right, apes People. Human DNA differs from that of bonobos by only 1.6% - so we’re basically closer to bonobos than dogs are to foxes.
Sex At Dawn lays out this theory that before Agriculturalism, human tribes behaved much like our close cousins. Like bonobos, tribes lived in interwoven communities and shared everything from food to shelter to sexual partners until dun dun dunnnnn Christian imperialists showed up on the scene and swung their sword of judgement on our ancestors, deeming this type of community style of living barbaric and sinful.
So now that you’re not oppressed by imperialist assholes and can actually decide for your self. Which would you prefer: living in a single family home with your partner, raising your kids on your own, and maintaining one monogamous sexual relationship for the rest of your life -OR- living in a community, sharing the land, childcare, all your meals, and your partner’s sex organs with the other community members? Tune in as your favorite Pussy Posse hashes it out—Individualism or Tribalism?
DEEP DIVE
Sex At Dawn
In this controversial, thought-provoking, and brilliant book, renegade thinkers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá debunk almost everything we “know” about sex, weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality to show how far from human nature monogamy really is. In Sex at Dawn, the authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity. You can find it hard or soft (bound, People!) on Amazon as well as Audible.