EP195 Sex Magic & Sacred Sexuality with Sexpert Extraordinaire Layla Martin Part 2
Welcome to part 2 of our interview with the incredible Layla Martin. If you missed last weeks’ episode, do yourself a favor and listen to that first and then come back here as soon as you’re ready.
In this episode you will learn ways to begin the process of transforming the nervous system with the VITA Method, the three key ingredients to manifestation, how to harness the power of sex magic to realize your deepest desires, and how to unlock your orgasmic potential through energy orgasm.
With the VITA Method there are 5 main tools you can use.
Breathwork
Sounding
Mindfulness
Using Energy
Movement
One of the best and simplest tools is breath. Breath is one of the fastest ways to actually take down that cortical control. When you're breathing deeper and with more attention than you normally would, it softens that nervous system grip and brings you deeper into sensations and feeling.
One of the basic things you can do when you are self-pleasuring, is a 5 to 10 minute practice of deep breathing, in through your nose and out through your mouth. When you start breathing deeper than you normally would, what will happen is it will usually start to trigger a deeper feeling and a seeper sensation of sexuality much more quickly.
When you start deepening your breath, your body will start to wake up and will start to show you what’s needed and you open up into more of that freedom of movement. A lot of normally when we self pleasure, we are actually quite still. When we are still it is keeping our energy and our body from as full movement as it could be. Opening into that movement is really important. When you breathe and move more openly, usually your energy will start to wake up.
And the key to all of this is being more anchored into what's actually happening in your body. It sounds really simple but most of us approach sex and self-pleasure from am I getting what I want out of this, am I feeling enough pleasure, am I going to have a climax. All of that is future thinking. Future thinking means you’re in your prefrontal cortex. If you have any concept of I need to do this faster, am I having a climax, am I feeling enough pleasure, that’s a great indication that you’re in your head. Using breathwork and mindfulness, it’s all about coming back to what am I actually feeling in my pussy? What am I actually feeling in my clitoris?
“It’s almost like making love to those sensations and being in intimacy with the sensations of your pussy, rather than being up in your head, watching them and trying to control them, can you be so in them your’re making love to your sensations. When that happens it starts to break open sexual reality where you’re more present and connected to your experience rather than trying to drive something.” Layla Martin
Layla has spent 18 years studying neo and classical tantra. The Vita Method is a tantric approach to sex, love and relationships.
This approach to sex is like yoga. It’s a profoundly transformational journey.
This path fundamentally changes the process the way we think about sex.
One of our favorite topics is sex magic, which Layla teaches in her work. According to Layla,
“To manifest, you need a couple of key ingredients.”
The first is you need a very clear vision. To do sex magic you have to have a very clear vision. Create a 5 senses reality. Every sense is on board. It’s a multidimensional being in the reality of what you want.
Prefrontal cortex is the least powerful part of the mind. This part of the mind doesn’t touch and integrate with parts of you that hold trauma and deeply embedded conditioning. Only the part of you that is your presence can impact those parts of you that are afraid and deeply embedded in your nervous system. You need your subconscious on board.
Second, you need a practice that gets you out of the prefrontal cortex and into the deeper parts and ideally it would have all of your body and all of your nervous system on board.
The cool thing about sex magic is because your’e working with every single chakra, in the classical tantric transition, the power of working with the chakras is it’s a code for getting all parts of your body and nervous system on board. So instead of just wanting something from your mind, in the sex magic practice you’re activating each part of your body as you go through the process. So you’ve got the deeper part of your unconscious, which is the most powerful part of your mind, signed up and turned on before you do the manifestation.
Finally you need high vibration energy. The third thing that makes a manifestation work is also in sex magic, which is that you are using orgasmic energy, which is one of the highest vibration forms of energy you can use.
Three Components to Sex Magic:
unlocking this deeply embodied visualization
you’ve got all parts of your body and mind on board
you have super high vibration energy, which is creating a level of potency to your manifestation
What is an energy orgasm and why would I want one?
An energy orgasm is an orgasm that comes from your energy body; it is not physically based.
Having an energy orgasm changes how we understand orgasm
Energy amplifies anything that you’re experiencing. When you have an energy orgasm, you can then enhance any sexual or orgasmic experience you ever have, and you can also tap into this experience of orgasm being so much beyond what’s happening physically that you become more orgasmic overall.
Practicing to have an energy orgasm can help those who are struggling with orgasm.
Science basically says everyone can have an orgasm unless you have a nervous system severance and even then you can have a mind orgasm. People who aren’t having physical orgasms, most of the time it's their emotional and psychological relationship to orgasm. So energy orgasm almost allows them to go straight there and do that work on the energetic, psychological part, which can then help them to have a physical orgasm as well.
There is so much gold in this episode. Tune into part 1 and part 2 and get ready to have a totally mind orgasm with this cutting edge education.
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ABOUT LAYLA
Layla’s journey to discovering her sexual awakening is one of the reasons we had to have her on Clit Talk as a guest. She was born catholic, took baths in bath suits as a child, and was extremely sexually suppressed growing up. Today, her story is very different. Layla is the founder of the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality and has spent over 10,000 hours teaching amazing people like you how to experience epic sex and legendary love. She’s also a hardcore science nerd who is madly in love with all things mystical.
OUR FAVORITE QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE
"Be slutty without a spiritual excuse." - Layla Martin
"Orgy means mystical rights." - Layla Martin
"Sex is a stiller form of meditation.” - Layla Martin
"You can have sex from different parts of your brain." - Layla Martin
Layla combines mystical practices with the most up-to-date scientific approaches to healing trauma and transforming the nervous system.
Check out Layla Martin's YouTube video “Sex Magic for Making Shit Happen.”
In this episode, we answer and explore a few questions that are game changers for sexual empowerment.
What is sacred sexuality?
What is sex magic?
And how do we do it?
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