Badass Clit Sexcesses: A Journey to Sexual Liberation & The Power of Community

Cliterati,

Over the last 4 years, we have transformed our lives by empowering ourselves in the realm of our Sex & Empowerment through all the guests and inner work we’ve shared on Clit Talk and we wanted to find a way to share this work in the way we’ve done it with other people.

We’ve JUST completed our first run of our Sex & Empowerment Signature Masterclass! We have been blown away by the positive impact that our course has made for our Cliterati and the results we’ve seen with velocity! So we’ve invited our S&E participants to come share their experience, breakthroughs and how this has made a positive difference in their life. The reason we want to share these stories is to inspire you - because if we can do it and they can do it, you can do it too.

This is an interview with one of the graduates from the Sex & Empowerment Signature Masterclass, MSG.

Through gaining a new pleasure positive community and using the tools and distinctions taught in this transformational course, this badass clit had life-altering breakthroughs in the realms of not just her sexuality, but also in her family relationships and career.

MASG highlights a key component of just how powerful transformation can be when you look through the lens of sexual empowerment and why this community is so important.

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“People should join this community because everybody wants to speak their truth and they just may not be ready to do that. And they might need a little bit of help. Even if you're not sure, just do it. I really started asking myself what's the worst that can happen? I don't get anything out of it? Well, I mean you get something out of everything, regardless of whether it's just meeting new people. What I got out of the Sex & Empowerment Signature Masterclass is an amazing fucking clit community, breakthroughs that are helping me continue to discover my sexuality, and getting a promotion. It's not just your sexuality that's affected by this. Literally everything in your life is impacted, from family relationships to your friends to your work - with yourself, ultimately. If you want even just a ten percent change in your life, this is something that can give you that ten percent and blow it up to a thousand.”

- MSG, Sex & Empowerment Signature Masterclass Graduate

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This is when we are cracking up laughing as we talk about how MSG has never listened to Clit Talk Podcast before registering for the course.

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[Lindsey]: I'm so happy that MSG is the first interview of this because I have to tell all

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[Lindsey]: our listeners we were laughing so hard right before we started recording. Because when

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[Lindsey]: M S G registered from the course, her friend K H,

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[Lindsey]: we're using their initials because they're going to be anonymous.

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[Lindsey]: KH

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[Lindsey]: Is is an avid listener of the podcast and she kept telling Ama she to listen to it

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[Lindsey]: and listened to it. Listen to blah, blah blah, and then MSG came to our

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[Lindsey]: free workshop confidence under the covers,

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[Lindsey]: and never listened to the podcast and registered. So she is doing the course of this,

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[Lindsey]: having no fucking clue who we are.

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[Katie]: And it didn't matter

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[Lindsey]: It didn't matter.

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[Katie]: She rocked this course.

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[Lindsey]: We literally were like. Who knew M. S. She was going to be the breakout star of

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[Lindsey]: the fucking signature Masterclass, And you really were. So it's it's so perfect that

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[Lindsey]: you are our first conversation post. I mean,

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[sugar]: Mhm.

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[Lindsey]: Last night you saw me. I was a rack. I was like crying like I can't believe it's

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[Lindsey]: ending.

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[Katie]: I mean you called it together.

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[Lindsey]: barely

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[Katie]: We're leading the course.

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[Lindsey]: Thank you so much for being here with us

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[Lindsey]: today.

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[msg]: Oh, thank you for having me. It's . it's one of those things where like you said, I

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[msg]: never listened to clip talk before and K kept saying Hey, I think you're in a spot

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[msg]: right now that you probably should listen to this.

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

MSG shares the story of her journey to sexual empowerment in the course.

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[Lindsey]: So so your story is so profound and I

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[Lindsey]: want to just dive

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[msg]: Mhm,

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[Lindsey]: right in with you. so I want

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[msg]: Sure,

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[Lindsey]: you to go back to the moment where K H is like bringing into this the workshop we

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[Lindsey]: had and and I want. and I actually really want to ask you this. Why did you

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[Lindsey]: originally signed up for the course? And what did you want to get out of it? The

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[Lindsey]: moment that. And what was the moment of you signing up? Like? What was that Tells

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[Lindsey]: about that moment?

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[msg]: So I, I mean, I'm about it. I've been in therapy for like twenty five years for a

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[msg]: myriad of different issues and challenges and life, life situations and traas, And I

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[msg]: think I was at the point where I just needed something different, And when Katie

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[msg]: brought me to this and introduced me to all you wonderful fantastic ladies,

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[Lindsey]: Clits?

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[msg]: , cllit, fantastic clits. ,

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[msg]: I was like. You know what? what? Like? There's nothing like I sorted. I knew the she

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[msg]: was going to be of enlightenment and awakening. I'm into Tarot, and all that,

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[msg]: all those mystical concepts and functions. So I was just like sure. Why not? What's

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[msg]: the worst that can happen? I don't get anything out of it Cool or I, You know, maybe I

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[msg]: get something out of it or I can just meet this amazing group of women and go through

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[msg]: amazing leaps and bounds with breaking through all of my walls. Oh, most of my walls

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[msg]: there's still a few that I have to kind of kick down and crble, but breaking through

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[msg]: some of these walls like, even in that first session that we had with that Webon are

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[msg]: afterwards. Katy and I talked for like two hours. I was just shocked and surprised. I

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[msg]: I like I was like I've been in twenty five years of therapy and I never broke through

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[msg]: all of this like there's still a lot of stuff and the the things that you know Sugar

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[msg]: It wasn't a decision. I made the choice to do it. I was just a little guns shy, And

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[msg]: then I just made it and I was like I told Katy. I was like I got it and she's like, Did

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[msg]: Is it cool? I'll see you in like a couple of weeks.

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[Lindsey]: You registered live during the the workshop and we were like Yes,

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[msg]: Mhm.

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[msg]: Right,

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[Lindsey]: a cool group of women. So I want our listeners to get this cause your

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[Lindsey]: your story is so powerful. I want to get like a little a quick glimpse of like what

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[Lindsey]: was your life like Before

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[Lindsey]: you? You really tackled? Tthe conversations that you did in the course.

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[msg]: it was status. ▁quo. I was raised in a small town. I had very. I don't want to say I,

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[msg]: going through this course was going to open up certain or breakdown certain stereotypes

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[msg]: that had been ingrained in me.

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[Lindsey]: Hm,

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[msg]: I was always a little bit more timid about asking for a promotion or getting like

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[msg]: seeing that I was worth anything. I had a lot of self worth issues. I just

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[msg]: struggled with a lot of things I probably shouldn't have, considering how powerful it I

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[Lindsey]: Mm,

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[msg]: so I mean that's and that's part of the reason why I joined it was 'cause KH saw

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[msg]: that like she saw that. You know you project a really good show, but I know on the

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[msg]: inside you are breaking down. You have a lot of things that you're hiding the shame

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[msg]: which we went through in that first week, which was a breakthrough.

MSG shares her biggest breakthrough.

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[Lindsey]: yeah, yeah, so let's dive right into that. Like, what? like we're

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[Lindsey]: going to get into your specific story now? Like what was the biggest breakthrough

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[Lindsey]: sex enpronment? Yeah,

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[msg]: So the biggest breakthrough happened in the first week when we started talking about

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[msg]: shame loves secrecy

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[Lindsey]: Hm,

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[msg]: and I never thought of that like I never, at twenty five years of therapy, never

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[msg]: thought that that was something that was going to be so powerful and working

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[msg]: through it and then talking to my pleasure partner and also to KH

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[msg]: I realized that I had a ton of shame that I didn't even know was there that I never

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[msg]: really acknowledged. I didn't believe it was there. I didn't accept that it was there.

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[msg]: And then once I started doing that, I realized Oh my God. So for me it was a sexuality

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[msg]: thing. I always thought I was straight. I always thought that I loved men. You know,

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[msg]: everyone loves the penis. It's fine. Nope, but I thought the K. As soon as I started

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[msg]: thinking about it, Sugar shared her experience and I was like, Oh my God, that's me.

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[msg]: That's me. Oh my God, it's me And then I talked to one of my friends. about it being

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[msg]: You know, Am I bi? Am I? What am I like? What's what's that whole thing

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[msg]: simply is if you watch lesbian porn and you like it because it's beautiful. The

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[msg]: difference is do you want to join in and I sat back and thought I did. I did want to

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[msg]: join in. I wanted to know what it was feeling like, you know. Be like. You know. what is

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[msg]: it like to tribe some woman or scissor, Or what is it like for her to go down on

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[msg]: me or what is it like me to go down and her like all of that stuff? Like I really like

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[msg]: that when she said that I was like, Oh,

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[Lindsey]: That's gold.

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[sugar]: Mhm?

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[Lindsey]: That is gold

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[msg]: that's gold.

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[Lindsey]: right there. That's gold.

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[msg]: That's cool.

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[Katie]: And, you know, when we start the course, we have everyone fill out a

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[Katie]: member survey right, so we can get a litmus

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[sugar]: Oh, my,

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[Katie]: test of wherever

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

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[Katie]: everyone's at, And you wrote

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[Katie]: Heterosexual

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[msg]: Yes,

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[Katie]: survey and it was a week later. I think I' bisexual,

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

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[Katie]: and I've never told anyone.

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[Lindsey]: never told anyone in your life.

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[sugar]: and you did it,

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[Katie]: never even allowed yourself to explore the conversation

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[Katie]: never even allowed yourself to explore the conversation

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[sugar]: and you did it live. We were on a group call with like a dozen women from the course.

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[Lindsey]: Like I'm not going

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[sugar]: Bad asked.

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[Lindsey]: to tell one person. I'm going to tell twenty people right now,

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[sugar]: I'm

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[Lindsey]: But,

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[sugar]: going to make a public announcement.

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[Lindsey]: that really speaks to this. The secrecy

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[Katie]: community,

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[Lindsey]: of the community, right like it, is a sacred space where people can

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[Lindsey]: share the truth that's been

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[msg]: right,

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[Lindsey]: bubbling on the surface for years

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[Lindsey]: that they haven't had the courage. and we, We were talking about you, like you

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[Lindsey]: display like we have a term vulnerageous, which is vulnerable and courageous.

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[Lindsey]: so inspiring.

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[msg]: I think when KH told me because I, we talked about it a little bit afterwards and I

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[msg]: said, I think it's easier to tell you. It's easier to tell a group of people who've

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[msg]: never really met you and there's no past bias. right? You didn't know the men that I

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[msg]: made mistakes with Or

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[Lindsey]: Yeah, we all have girl.

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[msg]: you know what I

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[msg]: I mean, you didn't know what you, don't you? You don't have any of that that passed.

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[msg]: That passed bias of who I was and what I did, and you know I'm starting to actually

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[msg]: I, I can start telling them and they're like not the conversation I expected. But you

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[msg]: know what? That's really cool. How can I support you on this journey?

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[Lindsey]: Yeah, Yeah, So and what's

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[Katie]: powerful,

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[Lindsey]: and what's you? really? really in Like, really took advantage of the community

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[Lindsey]: aspect of this course, So I want you to share if you're willing.

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[msg]: Y,

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[Lindsey]: So so you had this amazing breakthrough, You realize your' bisexual and and our

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[msg]: yeah,

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[Lindsey]: you during the course, And I'd love for you to share about that and share.

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[Lindsey]: you know what would have been predictable before you took the course Versus,

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[msg]: Mhm,

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[Lindsey]: now that you had the community, what actually happened for you?

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[msg]: So we all have all have our little bitch

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[msg]: in our head right and so my name's Vanessa, cause that's my drunk personality when

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[msg]: I was super bitchy. V. S was always a bitch. So that's I, that's joined my little bitch

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[msg]: after. Sorry any Vanessas that I are listening. And so I went and kind of started

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[msg]: in an ethical non non mono, non monogamous relationship. E, n Ms. and I met up with

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[msg]: using E, ▁quotes that she consented. I doubled check throughout the day just to make

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[msg]: sure. , come to find out, , he used a female decoy, so I mean, I have to give him

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[msg]: I was like you could probably answer. 'cause what if like something's happening, I'm

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[Lindsey]: right?

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[msg]: know. consenting to this, I don't know who you talked to or you found him. Please don't

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[msg]: sleep with him. I looked at him and I was like. What are you doing to me? My main rule

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[msg]: Don't bring it to my house. So after all of that happened and he left, I did girl code.

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[msg]: I talked to his wife. I told her you know, I'm so sorry. I did not know. He said that

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[Katie]: Who you thought was her?

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[msg]: right, which is like so wild, and I, then immediately a

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[Lindsey]: yeah,

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[Katie]: Yeah,

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[Lindsey]: That's crazy.

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[Katie]: next level

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[msg]: That’s next level.

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[msg]: I kind of give him a little bit of props for that, 'cause that takes a lot of

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[msg]: that's the whole other baggage

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[Katie]: right,

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

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[msg]: to unpacl that I don't want to, But after that happened, I sat down and Vanessa. I

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[msg]: the river, came barging in and started telling me your a whore, your a home

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[msg]: wrecker, You are unworthy. See like guys' want to be with you? Like all of these

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[msg]: different things that were there previously before I kind of pushed her out of the house

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[msg]: came roaring

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[sugar]: Hm,

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[msg]: back and I started spirling and then I immediately called K. H.

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[Lindsey]: M.

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[msg]: and

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[sugar]: you,

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[msg]: I told her what happened and I was freaking out. I never been in a situation

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

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[msg]: And I called her and she walked me through the the sugar breathing thing

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[msg]: And I called her and she walked me through the the sugar breathing thing

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[Katie]: the

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[msg]: and

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[Lindsey]: for seven

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[Katie]: four seven eight breathing.

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[msg]: fortunately

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[Lindsey]: eight everythinging,

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[msg]: we might just name it the sugar breathing thing.

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[Lindsey]: I think we should

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[Katie]: Yeah, I think we should, but just for people listening,

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[Lindsey]: the sugar breathing? I think it should be the sugar breathing thing For sure,

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[msg]: and she talked me through it and she was telling me she's like I know Vanessa is

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[msg]: there and Vanessa came roaring back and she's going to be there for probably a

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[msg]: while, but I need you to start like we need you to take a step back and think of you. Luly

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[msg]: did everything you possibly could outside of asking for driver's license and meeting up

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[msg]: with his him

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[Lindsey]: right, right.

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[msg]: and his wife, which let's be real here. You really did above and

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[msg]: beyond because you did the video chat. It's not like you just took his ward or

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[msg]: We started walking through some of the different tools. You know, telling

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[Katie]: Mhm

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[msg]: in the past I probably would have sat in that room. I probably would have cried. I

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[msg]: my fault like I'm at fault somehow, And

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[msg]: they do, They remind me and they're and they were there for me and we have a little we

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[Lindsey]: Hey, I

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[msg]: it's a tasty vegetable. . They were there though

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[Katie]: night said

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[msg]: they were there, and they. they, they helped walk through it and they

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[msg]: it's not your fault. You. You have to forgive yourself for not doing whatever you

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[msg]: thought would have been better

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[Lindsey]: right.

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[msg]: because there is no better. in this case.

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[Lindsey]: Yeah, you did everything

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[sugar]: Mhm,

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[Lindsey]: there was to do. And and I'm so glad that because the thing that's really

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[Lindsey]: lifestyle and

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[msg]: Mhm,

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[Lindsey]: I'm

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[Lindsey]: I'm

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[Lindsey]: pursuing your truth.

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[msg]: right, and that's and that's the thing, like I. I'm still upset. obviously, but I know

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[msg]: I'm in a lot better space than I would have been.

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[Lindsey]: Mhm.

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[msg]: I wouldn' to be laughing. We wouldn't be joking. I probably would. It would been like

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[msg]: an absolute mess. But it was because of this course and the tools and the people that

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[msg]: I, I know I, I can say with confidence that I would be in a very depressive

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[Lindsey]: Yeah,

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[msg]: and it would be detrimental, not just mentally and physically, but also

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[sugar]: M.

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[Katie]: Well, I want to

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[msg]: No,

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[Katie]: acknowledge you and point out a few things that you use. So Vanessa is the little

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[Katie]: bitch, which is the little voice in our head that is not us,

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[Katie]: It's a product of limiting beliefs that keep us from going after our goals and

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[Katie]: our desires, So when she's talking about Vanessa, it's like ▁quieting.

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[Katie]: the little bitch is something that we really practice. one of the first things that

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[Katie]: we do,

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[Katie]: and then you get pleasure partners. You have the option of pleasure partners within

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[Katie]: the course, and

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[Katie]: you, you and , other pleasure partners like combined to be a pleasure partner

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[Katie]: posse, which I think is so amazing because that's the great thing about our course is

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[Katie]: we really wanted to have the community aspect, And then you are the author of your

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[Katie]: and y by ▁quieting the little bitch, And by getting the support that you needed and

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[Katie]: being in communication, because this is ultimately A we. What we've get to after we

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[Katie]: do all the internal work is we practice communication.

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[msg]: Mhm,

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[Katie]: You did everything in the entire course, listening and speaking from your clitmitment

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[Katie]: and being a bold stand for yourself,

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[Katie]: and you are the author of your own life. Like this is what it looks like and the

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[Katie]: predictable future would probably be. You would probably write off this type of

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[Katie]: lifestyle of exploring it

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[msg]: right,

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[Katie]: ever again, you know, and you, and that's not what's happening like you. And it's

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[Katie]: just so it's so powerful. The Found foundation that you've built in going on

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[Katie]: exploring. and you are also a member of our climax program,

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[Katie]: so we will be continuing. You know working because it's a muscle right

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[msg]: Mhm,

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[Katie]: like you get all the tools and everything. But then it's all about practice and going

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[Katie]: through life using it and really gathering that experience.

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