5 Ways to Take Pleasure Back into Your Hands

Pleasure is not a luxury… it’s your birthright. 

After leading our digital courses over the past year, we have identified a limiting belief that many of us have. 

The limiting belief is “my pleasure doesn’t matter” and it shows up in sneaky ways. It shows up as a little voice (we call the lil bitch) and it tells you to put everyone and everything else first… the boss, the kids, the spouse, the project etc.

It’s the voice that says…

I’m not worth it. 

I’m too busy.

I’ll have time for pleasure, when I finish this task. 

The problem is that the cycle seems to continue. We complete a responsibility and then we find another thing that’s important and we place priority to it over our pleasure. 

The good news is that we have the ability to cultivate awareness. When we bring awareness to the limiting belief “my pleasure doesn’t matter” it no longer subconsciously calls the shots and that pattern can come to an end.  

From our personal experience, living from this limiting belief has an impact overtime on our relationships, health and fulfillment. 

We often think that we will feel the way we want when our external circumstances change. 

And that is actually backwards. 

Our physical reality alters when we accept it and choose to feel good feeling emotions. Access to acceptance is recognizing our worthiness. 

We are worthy of feeling good. We are worthy of being in our pleasure. Pleasure happens in the present moment.

All you have to do is acknowledge you are worthy of it, choose to be in it… and maybe tell the lil bitch to f***k off.  

No matter where you’re at with being in your pleasure, you can make a choice to move toward being in a higher vibration. 

5 Ways to Take Pleasure Back into Your Hands

1) Communicate your desires with some extra spicy tips from Katie’s episode on Unapologetic Motherhood. UM Club Episode Sex Positive Monogomy

2) Start tracking your cycle! This is another simple way to start prioritizing your pleasure. It's easy on the app - Clue. 

3) Cast spells with your erotic energy. Listen to Layla Martin’s two-part series on Sex Magic - Part 1 & Part 2 and learn to raise your vibration through your sexual energy. 

4) Hack Your Fashion and Style. Get a reframe on your fashion game with Emmy Award-Winning stylist Brenda Cooper's new book The Silhouette Solution. Tune into our episode on YouTube.

5) Share your sexcapades. Confessions, bloopers, sex stories and questions are ALL welcome here! As part of a new series we will be sharing your stories (anonymously, of course) and amplifying your questions, contributing commentary and advice in the name of normalizing the conversation around sex. This is especially great if you’re experiencing any shame. Letting go of shame starts through our sharing. When we share other people’s voices are heard. When you share you are telling the universe you matter. To share your stories with us, email us at ctshowpodcast@gmail.com. 

With Pleasure, 

Katie, Lindsey & Madison (A.K.A. Sugar)